Despite How it Looks

Despite how it looks, we often cannot imagine what story is behind the faces we meet, behind the messages we get. Despite how it looks, we live joys we do not always allow ourselves to feel. Despite how it looks, we can handle much more than we think.

 

In the last weeks, I traveled many kilometers by train. I also rode in very nice cars, even luxury ones, with people who feel close to me.

 

Even though I like driving my own car the most. It is an old used car. We have traveled over 150,000 kms together, in 7 countries. Now it has more than 400,000 kms. I usually drive alone or with my children.

 

This contrast makes me think. I clearly remember a time when I was really afraid to drive. First, at the start of driving school, when even a short drive felt hard. Then later, when I tried to practice more, often in my father’s car. People said: the more you drive, the better and calmer you become.

 

But one day, I got a phone call. My father was hit by a car and was very badly hurt. This did not help my trust in driving. Life brings many lessons, and we must deal with them.

 

As children, we spent a lot of time together in the car as a family. When you travel, you sit together and talk. We had no phones or tablets then. I am glad I can give similar time to my children too.

 

Back to fear. Inside, I believed that one day I would drive with ease. I did not know how, but I wanted it. I could not even imagine owning a car. But I knew I would need a navigation system. And good sunglasses. So I bought them. They helped me see well even when the sun was low.

 

I lost those sunglasses later, but the idea worked. Buying them with belief that I would use them one day was a risk—but it helped.

 

No matter how things look now,
doing something toward your dream is a way to start it.

 

For a long time, I did not believe this. It did not seem logical. But many times, I saw results in my life. Many successful people say the same. It is hard to ignore.

 

With a friend, we even joked about my past fears—like fear of phone calls, selling, or cooking. We said one day I would do all of this with ease, even driving.

 

Today, when I need to do direct sales, I like to do it while driving on the highway. I also think best when I drive about 120 kms/h. And I remember how scared I once was of highways.

 

Lately, I see many examples in my life. Despite how things looked, I went through many life lessons. Since childhood, I wanted to be someone who can handle life calmly. Despite my fears. Despite the hard (communistic) conditions I was born into.

 

Despite how it looked when I was a small child in a children´s home thinking about life’s pain. Despite when my father had only a small chance to live after a car accident – but he lived many more years. Despite two divorces. Despite my son’s serious illness.

 

One specialist once told me that life was not easy for me from the start – the stars were not aligned. So what? I look at my life and see that I learned from every lesson. I care about other people’s stories too. That is why I share what I learned.

 

I call it: “Despite.”

 

I found my strength in many life situations. Step by step, I became calm and strong—skilled in the art of life, even in business.

 

Everyone is unique. Everyone has something to share to make the world a better place. That is why I created the project “Grasp Your Power.” I also made a workbook you can use at home, at work, or even in your car—maybe still just a dream car (in English coming soon 😊)

 

I love to see stories of people I worked with. I see where they were and where they are now. Happy relationships, families, new businesses, or meaningful work. They all know where they go and what steps to take.

 

I look forward to who will be next.

 

And one more thing: this text is also in simple English, so anyone can practice and learn English as a second language through inspirational texts.